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LoredoMoon
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 Posted: Wed Dec 26, 2012 10:01 pm Post subject: Bipolar help |
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| so my bf has bipolar and he is going through a deep depression phase, and i need help on how to help him and what to say, we havent been dating that long, but i want to be helpful for him and help him through this, so any help would be great |
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AngelWings250
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Location: Barrie, Ontario
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Hello,
My husband has bipolar as well.
My best advice is learn about it, research it as much as you can. Ask him what type of bipolar he has and what treatments he has done/doing (if any).
Ask him what you can do to help.
Personally with my husband when he is in a low, he needs to sleep more. But I cant let him sleep to much or he will get cranky.
I also try to get him out of the house and into the sun more often.
Also more cuddles and hugs and staying calm and understanding myself. No yelling or getting annoyed or upset by his lack of interest in activities he enjoys.
His "mania" moods is a much different story, I often have to take his debit card away as he will lose responsibility and mainly run on impulses. |
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almax919
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| Posted: Sun Dec 30, 2012 2:12 pm Post subject: |
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| Go to see the family doctor and he will give you advices both on med and family support. |
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tgrover
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I can only imagine how you feel. I have Bi-Polar disorder with a diagnosis four years ago now. One three month hospital stay and a wake of devastation in my past... Divorce, bankruptcy, everything.
I am perfectly fine for the past three years. An amazing fiancee and a growing business.
I tell you this simply to show that it can be a rough road and that there is always hope.
How can you help:::::>
Firstly, be understanding... do some research and see that this disease is just that. Something that will have to be dealt with and overcome. It's like battling cancer but MUCH, MUCH easier.
Secondly, make sure he has some professional help. His family doctor scratches the surface unless they are very good. From personal experience I had a prescription that almost killed me... literally.
Thirdly, know that this will get better if you work at it together!
My fiancee and I found a hobby we could share... we have fish tanks. I put a lot of effort into it and every once in a while (reasonably often) when I have been manic, we buy fish or coral. So we minimize damage control.
I also know that the control of our money has to be in her hands.... otherwise it's like tempting a recovering alcoholic.
Bottomline - be positive, love him, and understand him!!
Best of luck... and be happy, both of you, that he doesn't have cancer. Bi-Polar can be managed. |
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pinkvelour
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| Posted: Fri Feb 08, 2013 5:19 pm Post subject: Re: Bipolar help |
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| LoredoMoon wrote: |
| so my bf has bipolar and he is going through a deep depression phase, and i need help on how to help him and what to say, we havent been dating that long, but i want to be helpful for him and help him through this, so any help would be great |
My ex has all the symptoms of bipolar, my life and our children's lives were hell. He did a lot of nasty things to us and denies every single one of them, never owning his actions, instead placing the blame elsewhere! The up and downs, irrational behaviour, the angry to the happy in seconds was crazy to say the least. I was not willing to be a patient person with this illness as our children did not understand it nor did they deserve to witness his erratic behaviours. His actions went against every moral I was trying to instill in our children. I could never ever tell my children that their father is ill, he would use that against me. The result: the children do not like their father and are scared of him, he is claiming alienation!
It's no one's fault if they are diagnosed with any type of disease, I would never date anyone with this disease again, and if anyone were to ask I would not recommend it,more likely... run the other way as fast as you can and don't look back. These people are unpredictable and sure he/she may be nice in the beginning but just wait if they have an angry side you will be on the receiving end of it! |
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NOAH'S ARC
Joined: 17 May 2013
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| Posted: Sat May 18, 2013 7:56 pm Post subject: BiPolar Disorder |
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I also have Bipolar and I can tell you there are good days and weeks and there are troubling days and weeks. It takes alot of effort to either keep calm in a mania or during the depression to motivate yourself to do daily activities.
Like others have said, study up on bipolar and ask your BF what you could do to help him out. Some times you have to let the person have their own space as well. Even though it is very hard to walk away for a short period, sometimes it is the right thing to do. Other times, giving a hug or just listening is the right thing to do. Be assured, bipolar is not just a one person disorder when in a relationship. |
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